#033 Developing Your Self-Worth

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Hey bud,

Most people have convinced themselves that they aren’t good enough.

(I fall under this group of people).

This “not good enough” line of thinking is also known as unworthiness.

Unworthiness is a nasty mental and emotional state that can:

• Sap away at your motivation

• Cause you to question yourself and your capabilities

• Bring about self-sabotage

• Lead to depression and anxiety

• Result in you losing hope

If you’ve struggled with unworthiness, then you know how it can really affect someone.

To create that sense of worthiness you need to create intentionality.

Being intentional with building-up your self-worth is what will create self-confidence.

And creating self-confidence is what will allow you to take those next level actions to create those next level results that you want in your life.

In this week’s letter we’ll dive into the positives (yes, there are positives) and negatives of unworthiness, how to use unworthiness to your advantage, and how to ultimately develop a sense of worthiness through intentionality.

But before we begin, an announcement:

Registration for the the Winning Your 2024 online workshop is now open.

If you’ve told yourself at the end of every year “It’s time to make a change” yet the following year you still stayed the same, this workshop is for you.

Early Bird Rates are only until December 25.

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Let’s get into the letter.

The Positives and Negatives of Unworthiness

There were a lot of times in my life where thoughts of unworthiness have lived in my mind,

In high school:

“I’m not attractive enough to get a girlfriend.”
“I’m not smart enough to get good grades.”

In college:

“I’m not cool enough to hang out with these people.”
“I’m not important enough to be listened to by others.”

In my working years (aka today):

“I’m not experienced enough to be taken seriously in the business world.”
“I don’t bring enough to the table to work or collaborate with established individuals.”

There are positives and negatives to this, I realized.

One positive aspect I’ve observed here is that this limiting belief of “I am not good enough” (in small doses) is what drives people to want to actually take action and improve themselves.

At least, it did for me.

The pain of possibly being stuck in an unwanted situation becomes so great that it almost forces you to want to change that situation.

One negative aspect I’ve observed is that it can stop you from taking action or dreaming of a better life altogether.

Especially if you’ve convinced yourself that there’s no way out of it.

So, what’s the way out, you might wonder?

Use Unworthiness to Your Advantage

The way out is through, I’ve learned.

Use it to find clarity of what you truly want to experience — the opposite.

In letter #024, I’ve shared about the idea of contrast being the starting point in finding clarity.

For example — in high school, I felt that I wasn’t attractive enough to get a girlfriend.

It made it clear to me that what I wanted was the opposite — to become attractive and get a girlfriend.

When that became clear to me, I suddenly had a goal to get a girlfriend.

To do that, I had to work on how I dressed, on my physical health, and even on how I treat other people.

I used that feeling of unworthiness to my advantage by working on myself to the point that I felt attractive and of value to the opposite sex.

And once I did, I started to believe that I was attractive and that I was of value — enough to get a girlfriend.

Now I don’t have that specific feeling of unworthiness anymore and as a result, I’m now happily married to the love of my life.

I’m using that same formula for what I feel unworthy of today — “I’m not experienced enough to be taken seriously in the business world.”

My goal now is to become a profitable and successful entrepreneur.

To do that I plan to gain enough experience and gather enough results in this journey by learning from mentors and building online.

So, if you’re feeling unworthy — identify what do you feel unworthy around.

Use that as information on what clear goals you can set for yourself so that you can cultivate that sense of worthiness by growing yourself.

Developing Worthiness

Worthiness and unworthiness are simply beliefs that we hold.

(I talk more about beliefs and how they are formed in letter #021 Belief Systems — From Limited To Empowered).

What turns a thought into a belief is repetition and evidence.

So, to develop a feeling of worthiness, you need to reprogram a limiting belief to an empowered one.

Here are 3 simple steps on how you can do that:

1. Identify and Say A Positive Affirmation to Yourself

This needs to imply that you are a worthy individual.

It can be something along the lines of “I am worthy of wealth and success” (If that’s what you want to develop worthiness around).

So, for my own goals I have the affirmation of “I am worthy of building a profitable and successful business.”

But of course, simply saying a positive affirmation to yourself isn’t enough.

2. Gather Evidence That You Are Becoming That Type of Person

Evidence can be in the form of actions or results.

So you can ask yourself these questions as a guide:

“What actions can I take which are actions that the worthy version of myself would take?”

“What results (small or big) can I create that tells me that I am worthy?”

Using myself as an example, an action I take regularly which the worthy version of myself would take is writing and posting online.

This simple and regular act is the foundation of my business and so each time I write and post, I feel as if I’m improving and becoming better.

A result I can create that tells me I am worthy is growing an audience online since that’s where my future clients will come from.

So, each time I see results in terms of audience and follower growth, I take it as evidence that I am becoming a more worthy entrepreneur.

3. Repeat

Then all there’s left is to repeat steps 1 and 2.

Daily.

Weekly.

Monthly.

Until years have gone by and you’ve formed new empowering beliefs that you are a worthy individual.

Over time, you would have gathered enough irrefutable evidence for your mind that you already believe that you are worthy of what you felt was once impossible for you.

In Conclusion

At the end of the day, you have low self-worth because you aren’t being intentional.

Next time you feel stuck in unworthiness:

• Find clarity on what you truly want

• Use the unworthiness as motivation

• Gather evidence of your capabilities

• Affirm the type of person you want to become

• Take action towards goals that grow you

Intentionality creates self-confidence.

By being intentional in developing your self-worth, you are on your way to winning your experience of life.

Final reminder:

Registration for the the Winning Your 2024 online workshop is now open.

If you’ve been wanting to create a positive change in your life, this workshop is for you.

If you’ve told yourself at the end of every year “It’s time to make a change” yet the following year you still stayed the same, this workshop is for you.

If you want to hit the ground running on January 2024 so you can reach your next level in life and business, this workshop is for you.

Early Bird Rates are only until December 25 and slots are starting to fill up.

10% of all proceeds from this workshop will go to charity.

Click here for more info.

I hope to see you guys there!

All the love,
All the power,

— Zach Marañon

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