October 05, 2024

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Most of us struggle with internal conflict.

You know that feeling — when one part of you is excited about something, but another part is holding you back?

You feel torn.

Confused.

Stuck in indecision.

And the worst part? It stops you from being fully present and enjoying the moment.

Isn’t it frustrating?

And the reality is, internal conflict can sabotage your experiences, your goals, and your happiness…

But what if I told you that overcoming it is simpler than you think?

Actually, I’m dealing with the same struggle right now.

I’ll be flying to Japan for a 10-day trip with my wife.

One part of me is excited!

But another part of me is dreading it.

In this letter, I’ll show you how I’m resolving this internal conflict — and how you can, too.

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My Internal Conflict — Unproductivity

I love to travel. In fact, I travel 3-4x a year!

And for this upcoming trip, although my wife and I have visited Japan separately, it will be our first time traveling there together.

So part of me is super excited! 

But another part of me is filled with resistance and fear.

Why? 

Because after our last extended vacation to Europe, I became unproductive. 

I lost momentum. 

And I felt like all the work progress I've built from before the trip had gone down the drain (I know, boo hoo, woe is me, right? Hear me out).

You see, I spent most days doing the bare minimum. 

All my free time was spent scrolling through reels and mindless entertainment. 

That feeling of being stuck was suffocating, and it's something I want to avoid after this Japan trip.

The problem is that, I want to enjoy Japan with my wife, but I'm terrified I'll fall back into the same unproductive pattern.

How I Addressed It — The Power of NLP

I realized that if I didn’t handle this internal conflict now, it would affect my mood for the entire trip.

So I turned to a process rooted in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) to help me resolve it.

I find NLP a powerful tool in resolving resistance and internal conflict because it works with the way our minds naturally process thoughts, emotions, and experiences.

It’s based on the idea that our thoughts, language, and behaviors are all connected.

So by changing how we perceive a situation, we can change how we think and feel about any situation.

For my situation, I identified the 2 conflicting parts of me:

1. The part of me that wanted to enjoy Japan fully

2. The other part of me that wanted to hold back on enjoying because of fear that it will lead to unproductivity later on

And in this NLP Process, I had them align and integrate so that there was no longer conflict within me.

I know that sounds vague right now, but it will make sense when I share the exact 3 step process I used to resolve this internal conflict.

So, here’s the 3 steps I used to resolve my internal conflict (and how you can too):

Resolving Internal Conflict — Parts Integration

This NLP Pattern is called Parts Integration, and it works using 3 simple steps.

1. Accept and acknowledge the resistant part of you

Do not resist resistance.

The more you ignore this part of you, the stronger it becomes.

Because what you resist persists.

So instead, welcome and accept it. 

This part of you is scared, and that's okay. 

Once you’ve accepted this part of you, you can: 

2. Understand the positive intention of this resistant part

Internal resistance isn't the enemy – it's our mind's way of protecting us from something we fear. 

In my case, it's the fear of falling behind at work and losing access to that feeling of satisfaction I get when I've gotten a lot of work done in a day. 

So ultimately, this resistant part of me simply wants me to be productive after the trip so that I can feel happy and satisfied – that's it's positive intention for me.

Once you understand the positive intention of the (former) resistant part, you can finally:

3. Align all parts of you toward a common goal

When you start seeing eye-to-eye with that resistant part of you guess what happens? 

The resistance fades. 

In my case, productivity, satisfaction, and happiness are all things that I want for myself. 

From step 2, I've realized that these 3 things are also what that resistant part of me ultimately wants for me. 

So now we're on the same team. And since we're on the same team, I now realize that I can fully enjoy the trip and stay productive afterward.

I just need to set clear intentions of specifically what I want to get accomplished on a day-to-day basis after the Japan trip.

That's the insight I got from this integration process.

In Conclusion

When you do this process for yourself, you will: 

• Remove doubts, worries, and fears

• Feel light, clear, and certain

• Have your own insights on how to move forward

Again, It's a powerful exercise rooted in NLP.

That's how you can overcome internal conflict: 

1. Accept and acknowledge the resistant part of you

2. Understand the positive intention of this resistant part

3. Align all parts of you toward a common goal

Since doing this integration process, I went from feeling torn (excited but also dreading it) to feeling at excited and also at peace. 

And now I'm fully ready to enjoy our Japan trip 100% :) 

Thanks for reading this letter! 

I hope it helped.

All the love,
All the power,

— Zach

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